Hello Peppers ~ I'm brand new to the group and would like to introduce myself. I am actually just in the beginning phase of divorce with my husband. We have been married for 14 years and have found that we've just drifted apart and are holding each other back from reaching our full potential. I am the instigator of the divorce and we are committed to remaining friends. To that end, we have opted for the Mediation route. There is no animosity between us - we just lost that spark long ago and are finally doing something about it. We have two beautiful little girls (9 and 11) and live in the mountains of the Sierra Nevada in California. There are no Peppers within miles of here so I hope to meet many of you via the Pepper'hood as I am sure I will need support from those who've traveled this road before. In a nutshell, I am a very active person, and my husband is a computer game addict. He knows it, but doesn't care to do anything about it. The way I see it, if he is happy, let him be happy, but I don't need to sit by and watch. I realized that in the 14 years we'd been married, I'd not gone skiing at all, no water-skiing, camping only once, and when we did travel, I was out at the pool drinking pina coladas and wishing I was one of those girls on their guy's lap in the pool, while my husband was playing backgammon with himself under the shade by the bar. Not what I want for myself! So at the age of 46, 35 in my heart, I am moving on. I hope to find someone who I can share my active life with, but if I don't, I'm going anyway! I would love to make some new friends - please write and introduce yourselves!