Hey there ladies, short story: hubby wanted own place, didn't know if loved me anymore or wanted to be married anymore. Got own place, his job going the best it ever has, we moved 1500 miles in with my Mother and he cries everyday. Not just cry - the ugly cry - weeping and sobbing and deep breath gasping kind of cry. I don't want to go backwards and do want to end it but he feels completely broken now. He wants "his family back" and how could I take the kids so far away, it's because I am so selfish and heartless and cruel and stopped loving him years ago BUT he still wants me back. So, he has hit bottom and can't talk on the phone without those big gasping sobs.  I. am. done. Has this happened to anyone else? What did you do? I asked for a couple more months to decide and he's freaking out because a couple more months is "a million tears" - ugh. Our kids are the greatest and at ages when so much developmentally happens - riding a bike without training wheels, losing a first tooth, potty training - big stuff. Am I selfish to move so far? I haven't worked in 11 years! How am I supposed to just jump in the job market and expect to make enough to cover everything? Yes, we verbally agreed to a certain amount for the kids but that has been short every time - ridiculously so. So, I was desperate too. Okay, input anyone? ps - thanks! LOL!!!

We made it up to the northwest and love it - being back home! The kids still don't know about our separation and we have been here just about 2 months. I love it and feel so liberated and like I have every opportunity open to me and the kids are so active and busy - a nice change. I have them enrolled for school in the fall and am currently looking for a job, which is a bit scary after 11 years being a stay home mom.  Am excited but still a bit nervous - do I still have "it"? Can I carry it off? How do you all do it? What is your favorite job? Did you go back to school? Love to know your answers...please! :)

Well, kids took the news pretty great, we told them me and them (4 of 'em!) are moving in with Grandma and that Daddy will move up there when he is done with work. They are great with that and since Grandma lives in the same town we did before we moved here almost a couple years ago - they can't wait! So, I am busy packing, squeezing in some homeschooling and cleaning - mostly dusting (my most dreaded chore). I am so looking forward to just being me and the kids without a new drama or emotion or crisis. So, we make the drive from southern Riverside County, California (about 2 hours from the Mexico border) all the way up to Portland/Vancouver Oregon/Washington. Can't wait!

Hello everyone! We are currently living in the "Inland Empire" of Southern California but hubby has decided he wants his own place. Can't afford two homes here so me & the kids are headed back up to the Pacific Northwest, where we spent 5 of the last 7 years, to live with my Mom. I hope she is ready for us! :) We have decided it best to wait to tell the kids until moving day gets closer (end of May due to school). Does anyone have any super wonderful ways of breaking the ice or filling them in? Some days I just can't believe he doesn't want to be married anymore - he "doesn't know" if he does, or if he loves me or or or or..... I need a good therapist.... LOL!!! Or some really great friends who can totally relate to my situation, which is why I am here. Does it ever feel like it is all you talk about? It certainly fills my every thought every day....ugh. Sorry! The end of May cannot come soon enough! Thanks Teri, for setting me up and getting me going, I almost just quit because I couldn't figure it out! :)